Human Emotions & Relations..!!

Posted by Ashish Biyani on September 1, 2010 | Subscribe
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“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” quoted by Barack Obama before or after winning elections. I am sure he is the first person who convinced millions of people ‘at a time’ to take the meaning of change in more literal terms.  However, we, as human, have been ready to adapt to change since our birth. We are getting used to it. And not only ‘used to’, now, we want change in everything. It’s good or bad, it doesn’t matter. We need a change. Everything is going perfectly fine, but still we need a change.  The height of desperateness for change is even our emotions with our relationships are by-default demanding ‘change’.

Human Emotions & Relations

Human Emotions & Relations

There could be some relationships, which are made in heaven but all the emotions are genuinely chosen by us. And we didn’t observe but our emotions keep changing without reasons or for those reasons which don’t make any sense. Whatever relationship is, close or new, formal or old, we automatically change our emotions for it. Like economic cycle, business cycle, recycling, life cycle, I am sure there would be a sunny day when we will read about cycle of emotions. And this will be taught by our great economists with the help of graphs showing “change in emotions” on X axis and “relationships’ closeness” on Y axis. You never know if this really happens!

In the category of heaven made relationships, there are only two nominations: Parents-son/daughter & Siblings. Rest all other relations like mama, chacha, tau, bua, fufi, mausi etc. lost their charm to come into this category. Many of us consider these relatives as enemies, critics, or even ‘competitors.’  If we talk about parents, they have so many expectations from their children.  Even children keep appreciating their expectations until they believe in give-take relationship. Children keep demanding things until they start earning and parents never say ‘NO’. And once children start earning, that’s the end of give-take relationship. Emotions change themselves. Parents, who kept fulfilling demands of cycle, byke, car, music system, games, cricket kit, etc. by sacrificing their own needs, are left alone with their expectations. Initially, they sacrificed their needs to make their children happy and to build their (children) career and later, children sacrificed parents’ needs for their career and happiness. Earlier, parents use to desire for a boy as a child so that he can fulfill their dreams but with change in time, they realized that they are wrong. Whatever, at least this helped females in getting equal position with males.  This could be another reason along with literacy for accepting girls as a child for many parents.

After parents, we share strong bonding with our siblings. From sharing common bed to sharing bath-towels, we always get a good friend with whom we can play or fight. However, our emotions change this time too. Either with a twist called marriage or with the goddess of wealth, i.e. money, we change dramatically. We ‘grow up’ and become more ‘professional’ in our relationships with our siblings. We don’t have time to sit and share our happiness with our siblings, but we have all the time to talk to our bf/gf, watching matches or freaking out with friends. Yes, I know that fights for getting better air-gun, better cycle, better book-cover or more crackers on Diwali come to an end but those were our happiest moments. I think we don’t need those moments any more or do we?

See, how our emotions change for our own heaven made relationships. This is not good and worst part is we know that this is not good, but still we are flowing with this unwanted change.  I wish God would have gotten better planning minister who could have sponsored/enabled heaven made relations with heaven made emotions.


PS: This is part 1 and I will update this blog with part 2 very soon.


  • Parul says:

    Absolute Right Sir….. I don’t know, we should call it the biggest reality of our life or tragedy. Human emotions can never be remained same. I believe this is the law of nature. But, I want that we should manage our emotions and human relations in the welfare of us as well as nation.
    I like this post very much……because it presents a truth of our life.


  • Abhishek says:

    I do agree with you in some points and not agree on some. As you mention that “that sunny day will come when the emotions of the person may be studied” I think it has already been happen as a major subject in Phd in Psycology. But I do agree with you second last paragraph. Even I say, it is the time when we had very cohesion with our freind rather sibling but as time passes all the relations chages according to priorities in life. Life is also a cycle where u hv cohesion with one but on the same time goin far frm other.

    • Well I wrote the point you mentioned in more sarcastic way.. I know we do study psychology as a subject but I am sure till now we are not studying about the topic I have chosen..And yes I agree we are getting into a mode where everything seems a “cycle” to us.. we call it trend and then we leave it aside..alas!!

  • Nish says:

    Yaar tu to senti ho gaya… Chal aaj hi tere saath movie chalta hoon aur juice wale ke yahan baith kar duniya ki gossip karenge… :D … Dude some changes are temporary… Time makes people realize that not all changes are good and some changes need to change back to original emotions.

    • lolz.. senti nahi aise he with full of emotions likha :P But I don’t think these changes are temporary.. people get into these changes and then its become trend or a cycle for them.. I wish people realize that not all changes are good and back to good one as you said. Amen..!!

  • Dhaarna says:

    I agree AB …that emotions to change….but as far as family front is concerned…today i m glad that I don’t fit in ur criteria…:)

    I have been same for all my loved once till today…and I guess…time will not change this..

    Yes but i agree…that…ppl change…change is a part of life…and now a days…money is first priority for everyone…

    Any ways…nice thought…from where do u get these idea’s man…:)

    • That was for masses.. up to some extend even I don’t feel I fit into but yes slowly slowly we are becoming part of it..we have to check this out with the eyes of others..and thanks for appreciating my ideas..ideas or thoughts are always around.. pick one of them any time you want :)

  • Shahnawaz says:

    Above raised points show the reality of our life. We know its not good and not the mantra of our life but still we move in the direction of mass flow. I dont know why but it may be due to unconventional human nature.
    “Change in face will not change anything but facing the change will change everything”……..
    Great thoughts…….Waiting for part 2

  • Mohit says:

    True, Every relation is based on Give and Take fundaa!!! But main point to take care that, Respect!!! Emotions comes due to some subjects, objects, conditions, situations.. blah blah.. but Respect comes from heart!!!.. from True Love, there are many forms of love, everybody wants to love and to be loved. If Emotions are temporary and if love is true, it will not harm to us. So Enjoy Life with different Emotions and with True love / Respect.

    Anyways.. Again gud Writing!!! :)

    • True mohit, love and emotions are necessary but my concern is you have to express them timely. Its important else love and respect can be confused with taking “for granted”.

      Emotions — Relations — Expressions — Reactions >> Another cycle..

      & Thanks once again for appreciating my writing..

  • Mohit says:

    dekh boss, its all abt thinking / mentality / perception /.. Everything has his own cycle… like every action has reaction…. Now a days public are very smart, even if someone taken as granted.. we cant help it…

  • Gunjan says:

    Hi! Ashish,
    What is up?? How is life? change will not happen till the time everybody is will to change and till the time everybody is convinced to do so or till the time everybody is required to do so??


  • shipika says:

    You always bring such topics… :) i agree wid u and other people too who presented their views here..
    Widout change there is no life…(aisa Charles Darwin ne kaha tha ;) ) unhone aisa kyun kaha thts a different point..but main aisa bol rahi hu thts a different reason..
    changes can be negative and positive…what u hv talked about is a negative change that we move ahead in our life leaving our parents and siblings wid so n so reason…

    bt the other side is that our emotions change when we are a child, we r an adolescent, we r an adult and throughout every stage of life….nd we need to change our emotions..wid our parents, friends..siblings..child everyone wid every stage….warna hum unhe samajh kaise payenge…..

    so the thing is we shud change …..but for positive things… :) u too have changed a lot since childhood :P

    • Yes that’s true.. we change and that’s the reality.. and I know everyone has that Good, Bad & Ugly inside them.. but if we change for good that’s better..we should change but for betterment of our relationships.. And yes I got changed a lot but I am sure on the positive side ;)

  • Shaukat says:

    Ashish , I am agree with you . It was a great thought and cause of all challenges of life which are related to human nature or psychology.
    Some times I think about that . Some time I feel to find some solution.
    When I try to find the reason behind the sudden change in human behaviour.why this is happening in our social culture . I went to those who was old and social . Once my father told me a trueth about the past culture or tradition. He said , when he was child , there were an inter-dependent culture for everything. People at that time didn’t had match-box to burn wood so they go to the neighbour to get some burning-coal and put it in their chulha to cook food . Few had milk but no grains , so they exchange it.We can call that people are dependent on each other for their daily needs.It is an small example of interdendency.People were illiterate at that time but the culture of inter-dependency taught them the lesson .
    Today , if I need to cook food or I need milk or grain , I can buy it from any shop or person . I do not have to be dependent on any one, not even on my Parents, Siblings or neighbours. etc….
    This was the reason which I learnt from some old people.
    I thought to get a solution but I feel it is deficult to be united without any need of each other.
    This is the lesson which we never learnt in school or college . Our teacher and parents taught us about to compete with our friend.Is it possible that you can make a healthy culture by competing with friends ?
    This lesson should be added to school book and religious lectures.
    I have a lot to share but it is a huge matter ..
    Thanks and regards
    Khann Shaukat

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